THROUGH COUNSELING, COUPLES WHO ARE DISCONNECTED AND FIGHTING RE-DISCOVER THEIR SPARK, AND LEARN HOW TO BUILD BETTER CONNECTION AND INTIMACY.
- Get “un-stuck” from negative patterns with spouses or children.
- Access the best parts of yourselves, then communicate and interact in ways that line up with your values
Cultivate relationships that enhance your lives, rather than drain them.
I use Solution-Oriented Therapy to help couples get out of the “problem-saturated” way of viewing each other and their relationship. We begin by creating a strong vision of how you would like your relationship to be; how things would ideally be when the problem is no longer a problem. This vision-creating process helps reconnect you to the good aspects of your relationship and your partner, and encourages you to identify the aspects of yourself that need to change in order to move toward those positive changes.
No problem is always a problem in a relationship. There are glimmers of more positive, relaxed, passionate and fun-loving times. When the sizzle seems to be gone from the relationship, we tend to point the finger at our partner, “If only they’d change X, Y or Z, then I’d be much happier / I’d be able to make the changes they’re wanting me to make.” In therapy, we unpack this fallacy, helping each partner acknowledge and own their role in creating the current challenges. Then, from the place of self-awareness and responsibility, we can rebuild respect, connection, and passion.
Here are some resources for couples with a Solution-Oriented focus: